A Terrible Thing Happened….

[TXRangerTim]

Suicide is never easy on those left behind. I recently lost a friend to suicide. The very next day I started getting tons of calls and texts asking if I heard about and if I was ok. We were both rcently retired, prior military and about the same age. We came from a time and job where seeking help wasn't "manly". But times have changed and everyone is encouraged to seek help without any repercussions at all. My friend didn't or couldn't seek help. But he would have realized he had numerous amounts of people that would have helped him if he just talked.

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[9zero1790]

A man pulled onto a dirt path leading to a field down the road from our house and shot & killed himself. We saw all the Sheriff’s & unmarked cars going by, so husband went to see what was going on. They couldn’t release the man’s name until family was notified.

We received a call while on the way back from taking our Grandson home. Turns out the man was someone we knew. He rented some property from us for 22years. Great guy. My Dad thought a lot of him. This is heartbreaking.?

my gosh that is awful tracy. all the thoughts of why and could haves will make one crazy. We should add his name to our prayer and positive thought thread.

 

[9zero1790]

this may not be the best place for this info so forgive me Tracy.
open to all veterans of basically any uniform service and family. 22 kill sounds rough but is actually about help / life. they recently changed the name. they do good works have a lot of members.
i wear my black (honor ring) band most days.
https://www.1tribefoundation.org/

 

[Fordup]

Sorry to hear this Tracy. The last couple years have been tough on many and its sad to say but many just feel overwhelmed and getting help is the last thing on their mind. Prayers to you and your family.

 

[BS67]

Sorry to hear this news, Tracy. My condolences to everyone affected by this.

 

[MacMantis]

My heart goes out to you. Like others have shared, it’s hard to talk to others about what pains you’re going through, but from experience, it’s a huge relief once you do. Everyone needs help sometimes, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. And if the first person you talk to doesn’t respond well and give you what you need, try again with someone else. Family or friend or if those are unavailable, seek out professional help like a therapist/counselor/pastor. They really are there to help and want to hear you out. I’ve gotten help that way as well as several friends and family of mine too. No shame in being unable to handle everything on your own. No one can do this life alone.

 

[P. A. Schilke]

A man pulled onto a dirt path leading to a field down the road from our house and shot & killed himself. We saw all the Sheriff’s & unmarked cars going by, so husband went to see what was going on. They couldn’t release the man’s name until family was notified.

We received a call while on the way back from taking our Grandson home. Turns out the man was someone we knew. He rented some property from us for 22years. Great guy. My Dad thought a lot of him. This is heartbreaking.?

Hi Tracy,

Very sad news, especially when it is someone you know.

God Speed!
Phil

 

[HenryMac]

A man pulled onto a dirt path leading to a field down the road from our house and shot & killed himself. We saw all the Sheriff’s & unmarked cars going by, so husband went to see what was going on. They couldn’t release the man’s name until family was notified.

We received a call while on the way back from taking our Grandson home. Turns out the man was someone we knew. He rented some property from us for 22years. Great guy. My Dad thought a lot of him. This is heartbreaking.?

Tracy, sometimes this is a blessing. Who knows why the man did what he did, but being in control of your own situation and ending things on your own terms can be the most compassionate thing a person can do.

I know of several situations where folks have done this rather than die a prolonged death at the hands of "Modern Medicine".

If we remove "religion" from the conversation, isn't an abrupt ending the same thing many of us do for our pets when the end is inevitable?

 

[TOMDEE]

A man pulled onto a dirt path leading to a field down the road from our house and shot & killed himself. We saw all the Sheriff’s & unmarked cars going by, so husband went to see what was going on. They couldn’t release the man’s name until family was notified.

We received a call while on the way back from taking our Grandson home. Turns out the man was someone we knew. He rented some property from us for 22years. Great guy. My Dad thought a lot of him. This is heartbreaking.?

PERHAPS THE ROUGH ROAD CAUSED HIS GUN TO ACCIDENTALLY DISCHARGE

 

[subquark]

Tracy, sometimes this is a blessing. Who knows why the man did what he did, but being in control of your own situation and ending things on your own terms can be the most compassionate thing a person can do.

I know of several situations where folks have done this rather than die a prolonged death at the hands of "Modern Medicine".

If we remove "religion" from the conversation, isn't an abrupt ending the same thing many of us do for our pets when the end is inevitable?

It's such a difficult topic and has so much stigma attached to it.

My father took his life in 1985 - absolutely no closure for me and I often wonder if he had some undisclosed medical issue. I'll never know and I focus on the good he did and how he taught me that anything mechanical could be fixed.

I still use the automotive tools he left me and I hope he knows how thankful I am for all the life lessons he taught me.

 

[OrangeStreak]

Tracy,
I am so sorry to hear about this unexpected incident. I can feel the pain and grief that you, your husband and family are going through.

I have experienced 5 family deaths and two were especially hard...one a brutal murder and the other last April, my nephew Josh, age 34 in a tragic drowning accident. I shared this with my Pastor and church group who gave the needed support to help me cope with the loss and to begin the journey toward the healing process.

And then in August, a close friend's teen age daughter Heather, age 18 committed suicide of all things by drowning herself. You're never ready for the death of someone close and the timing is never right. I have learned the importance of treating family and friends right and going the extra mile for them today because tomorrow they might be gone. Will be praying for you and family to find relief and restoration... ?

 

[JesseS]

Sorry to hear you had to experience this, brings the plight of so many closer to home, and you will always ask yourself if there was something more you could have done, and why you didn't see his pain. In both my careers I have lost more than a few friends to suicide, and not having ever experienced the mental or emotional situations bringing one to this decision myself, that didn't keep me from driving 200 miles to sit with a friend and just talk when he reached out. You have to know someone needs help before you can help them.

 

[Blmpkn]

Very sorry to hear, Tracy.

 

[dtech]

Sorry to hear , when I lived in Denver I did the out of darkness walks for suicide prevention in support of our daughter whose best childhood friend hung herself (father found her) - this gal was bright, beautiful and seemingly had everything to look forward to in life. Very difficult to understand and took yrs for our daughter to be whole again.

 

[dtech]

Tracy, sometimes this is a blessing. Who knows why the man did what he did, but being in control of your own situation and ending things on your own terms can be the most compassionate thing a person can do.

I know of several situations where folks have done this rather than die a prolonged death at the hands of "Modern Medicine".

If we remove "religion" from the conversation, isn't an abrupt ending the same thing many of us do for our pets when the end is inevitable?

Agree with that - and several states including CO have medical aid in dying provisions, I mention my daughter who is a social worker and works in a facility that cares for huntington (horrible incurable neurological) disease, she's seen several patients have their end of life wish granted, one a 32 yr old female MD, attractive talented lady whose only wish was for her suffering to end.

Sad to hear how many vets are taking their own lives in the US.

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