How to avoid a divorce?

[Burnt Money]

the wife always reminds me.........what's hers is hers........what's mine is hers!

She’s not wrong lol.

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[BS67]

Better not teach her how to shoot.

Too late! Dang-it!

 

[BS67]

She’s not wrong lol.

Pretty much! LOL

 

[FerdRanger]

Every time the conversation comes up of how many fishing rods …. do you need? My response is …..

you can’t golf with one club ?

 

[TJC]

Is there any home where it’s always open discussion about how much money and on what purpose exactly you really spend on your Ranger? And you can do with your Ranger whatever you like?
Maybe I have missed useful tips thread “how to explain why I need something to my truck and when it’s done, I need something more”?

I am going to get a little serious here. When my wife and I married, we promised to put the needs of the other before ourselves. To be selfless in all things. It has worked well for us for well over 20+ years.

Our arguments typically are about how one can assist the other.

I wanted to build a 30x36 garage. with a 2 pole lift. We talked and she as usual said go for it. I priced the building and then lowered the size of it to 26x30 and had the builder add a large closed in back porch to the house for her. I know she wanted the old deck improved and I happily sacrificed a little for it.

We never argue over money. We both are of like mind in how we spend and save.

We purchased our home and paid it off in 5 years. During that time we slept on mattresses on the floor, and ate on a folding card table and chairs from Walmart. Our clothes were contained in cardboard moving boxes. Our meals were frugal and we never ate out. ( We still don't! )

Once the house was paid for we began furnishing it. We have never been in debt as a result.

This has worked well for us, but trust is required.... and one must resist the urge to take advantage of the other. It is second natural to us now, and it has made our lives much happier.

I just recently added a $600 1 piece driveshaft to our 2020 Ranger to correct the shudders. I spoke to my wife about it, but I was reluctant to go forward. I had narrowed the problem down to the driveshaft, but what if I was wrong? She finally spoke up and insisted that I make the purchase and install it. We are now both very happy with the truck.

I don't know if this practice will work for everyone, but it has made our lives richer for it.

Best of luck to you!

- T

 

[Burnt Money]

Just started thinking. It’s funny when I buy a $100 rod it’s do you really need another one? When I said let’s get a new boat. With no hesitation it was ok let’s go look at them. A week later we’re picking it up from the dealer. Apparently things that are expensive don’t count ?.

 

[Rhino]

Is there any home where it’s always open discussion about how much money and on what purpose exactly you really spend on your Ranger? And you can do with your Ranger whatever you like?
Maybe I have missed useful tips thread “how to explain why I need something to my truck and when it’s done, I need something more”?

being single fixes a lot of that lmao

 

[Fawnbuster]

I am going to get a little serious here. When my wife and I married, we promised to put the needs of the other before ourselves. To be selfless in all things. It has worked well for us for well over 20+ years.

Our arguments typically are about how one can assist the other.

I wanted to build a 30x36 garage. with a 2 pole lift. We talked and she as usual said go for it. I priced the building and then lowered the size of it to 26x30 and had the builder add a large closed in back porch to the house for her. I know she wanted the old deck improved and I happily sacrificed a little for it.

We never argue over money. We both are of like mind in how we spend and save.

We purchased our home and paid it off in 5 years. During that time we slept on mattresses on the floor, and ate on a folding card table and chairs from Walmart. Our clothes were contained in cardboard moving boxes. Our meals were frugal and we never ate out. ( We still don't! )

Once the house was paid for we began furnishing it. We have never been in debt as a result.

This has worked well for us, but trust is required.... and one must resist the urge to take advantage of the other. It is second natural to us now, and it has made our lives much happier.

I just recently added a $600 1 piece driveshaft to our 2020 Ranger to correct the shudders. I spoke to my wife about it, but I was reluctant to go forward. I had narrowed the problem down to the driveshaft, but what if I was wrong? She finally spoke up and insisted that I make the purchase and install it. We are now both very happy with the truck.

I don't know if this practice will work for everyone, but it has made our lives richer for it.

Best of luck to you!

- T

I agree!

 

[P. A. Schilke]

Every time the conversation comes up of how many fishing rods or stuff for hunting do you need? My response is how many pairs of shoes do you really need. Then we both laugh about it lol. When you work hard for your money you have to enjoy it.

Dated a lady, Social Worker, for a few months. She talked about how good she was in bed. I told her to show me...never happened...last time I was at her house she had a furnace problem and I told her I could look at it. In the basement I found 500 pair of shoes in boxes, purchase but never worn. So as Hotel California lyrics say, Last thing I remember was I was heading toward the door, I had to find the passage back to where I was before... AMF and then I found Margie...Happily married for 18 year this Jan 20...

Best,
Phil

 

[Fordup]

I just tell my wife I am staying ahead of inflation. If I don't buy it now it will cost twice as much next year. My wife has a croc problem. Every time they come out with a new color she buys it. Discovered it when I dropped my keys on the floor and looked under our bed. Must be 250 pairs of them under there. Made me laugh because here I thought I was the one with a tool problem .

 

[BS67]

As I posted before.......what's hers is hers and what's mine is hers.......it's worked for 31 years so far. I do get my spending time though.....just in a conservative way.........we both are that way! Except when it comes to primers, bullets and ammo........I AM THE KING OF MY DOMAIN!

 

[Langwilliams]

The only way to avoid a divorce is to never get married. Two buddies of mine are in their 40's an have never been married. Their reason? I'm not working my ass off to give half of it away in a few years.
I was married for 18 years an got blindsided by the divorce so I highly doubt I get married again. It's been almost 20 years! I'm so set in my ways of enjoying doing what ever when ever it will be hard to make a commitment like that again.
You can make all the accommodations an work hard on a relationship an still not make it.

I see a trend in people now that are couples that are remarried at an older age an they agree to a financial plan to share the expenses an invest for the future an what's left is theirs to use as they please. They never fully merge their money. I thought it was weird at first but it seems to avoid the fighting over money.

 

[TJC]

"If She's unhappy, you're unhappy....​

If she's unhappy long enough, you're unhappy with half your stuff!"​

- Jeff Foxworthy​

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I can still hear him saying it!
- T

 

[OFC Ranger]

You guys saying “It’s my money, I’ll do what I want”, you’ll probably see it different in your next marriage.

Oddly enough there are some relationships out there that flourish like its still like the 1950's. It is probably a mixture of ones that are healthy and mutual in this arrangement and ones that are run by an abusive "know your role" control freak husbands.

My divorce did not revolve around monetary problems, but we have gotten back together since. The honest truth the divorce was the best thing that happened to our relationship after 15 years. Our bond is much stronger now.

Everyone has a plan (marriage) till they get punched in the face (divorce). Then you improvise and grow. Either the person acknowledges their own short comings and seeks repair, or they move on looking for the next mate while subliminally looking for someone else to put up with their shit and hopefully not leave them.

 

[Brett Fields]

the wife always reminds me.........what's hers is hers........what's mine is hers! 

Yes! I got the same speech 30 years ago!

She's the responsible one in this relationship though. Fwiw... 30 years in, and I have a killer credit score.

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